My wife is making baby. Its a boy. In China, we done the deed, once, then she lost her pill, and we could not find a morning after pill, or even a chemist that wasnt actually a herbal medicine shop. She has been told in the past it was very unlikely for her to make kids, and apparently this happened in the most infertile part of the 'cycle'. We came home and found her pills in some weird corner of her suitcase... ah! We feel really bad, as we have friends that really want kids, and either cant actually have them, or have been trying for years... and we didnt want them at all (especially my wife!! lol) and then just one time, it happens. Feeling guilty for being selfish. We both are not liking the thought of being parents. We LOVE kids, but just didnt want our own. Always thought if we were going to have them, we would adopt. The world is populated enough as it is. Could never abort or adopt, as we have a great relationship, doing very well financially, and have fantastic family support. We just keep telling ourselves 'it is what it is, suck it up, do our best, love him, and hopefully our attitudes will change when hes out and we watch him grow up' Granted, it doesnt help that a lot of my wifes friends are single mums who pretty much hate their lives, lol. At the same time, speaking to people who really want kids, they all seem to have 'selfish' reasons too, like 'i want a little version of myself'... Any other parent here have similar problems? A lot of people say 'as soon as you see the baby, everything will change', but that only seems to come from overly emotional people anyway, which we are not. Seen plenty of cases where thats clearly not true.